The Adventure of Following a Thread -- About Relationships

“Relationships begin at home.”  So goes the line I heard in my head as I was walking through the living room to the front porch to begin my time of writing this morning.  Sometimes the universe gives me a sentence like the one above.  And then, waits to see what I will do with it.  If I grab it, it is often a doorway to an adventure in imagination or thought.  If I do nothing with it, it will fade. 

Julia Cameron, author of The Artist Way, told a story in one of her Creativity Camps about hearing a one liner while driving on a trip. She pulled over and began to write and this one liner led to a whole series of stories. Today, I’m grabbing the thread and following.  Come along and let’s see where it leads. 

Once I wrote the above sentence in my journal I heard “We source our relationships from home.”   Hummm!

Who is/Where is home?  We are home.  Within us.  In diverse personal growth experiences I’ve heard it said, “There’s no one out there.”  What we believe within us so colors the outside world that a change within totally changes the way our external reality responds.  I had this happen a while back.  I was getting ready for a meeting with a client on a web site I was designing and the whole while I had a negative voice in my head that sounded just like this client.  And, this version of the client within me was criticizing everything I was doing – “You are going to slow.  That’s not big enough. The type is too small. The design is off.  I want it another way.”  And, I started arguing with the voice.  After about an hour of this I began to plot how I could fire the client. 

The meeting with this client was imminent.  My interior environment did not bode well as an indicator of the outcome of the meeting.  The negativity continued as I drove to the appointment.  About a block from the meeting place it finally occurred to me that the voice was mine.  The judgments were mine.  Duh!  And so, too, must be the beliefs about what the client thought about me. (I did have some proof for these judgments that included phone calls and past meetings with the client, none of which had been very pleasant.)  In this flash of clarity, I realized that with ThetaHealing I could change my own beliefs about what the client felt about me. (You can’t change someone else, but you can change your own beliefs about what someone else thinks about you – and if there’s no one out there anyway, then maybe how they feel about you might change as well.)

I pulled over and began to change my beliefs about how this client felt – using the negativity I’d been through that morning as a gift to let me know what those beliefs were – that I was too slow, my design work wasn’t what he wanted, etc.  Using theta I installed beliefs that he really liked what I was doing, was very pleased with the speed and design work and was very happy about the progress of the web site.  Mind you, I wasn’t really sure this would have any result, but it was worth a shot given that my other scenario of how the meeting would go had me blowing up and firing the client. 

Right from the start I could feel that the atmosphere in the client’s office was different.  The client had everything set up and told me how happy he was with everything so far.  I was so surprised.  He continued on that he really appreciated my coming to him and the timeliness and design work I was doing. What a turnaround!  It really brought home to me just how much power we possess in all of our relationships. We had a productive meeting and the newfound ease in our relationship continued until I completed the project.

The inner is the key.  Our relationship with ourselves is the key.  How do you feel about yourself?  How loving are you?  How critical are you?  One thing I know is that the more critical I am, the more I attract criticism to me from the outside.  The more loving I am the more I attract love and appreciation.  What is your internal relationship with yourself?  Would you like to change it? 

A Teleclass on Relationships is starting. It’s a 5-part series with class number one on our relationship with ourselves, then our relationship with source, relationship with love, life and money/abundance.  I know from the organic nature of my previous classes that we’ll cover some unexpected territory.  It will be an adventure.  If this is something that interests you, let me know via email thetahealingblog@gmail.com or phone - 818-590-0062.  This one is scheduled to start the second week of August on a Wednesday night. The number of participants will be limited. Are you interested? Let me know.  

Don't forget my one-day class -- Attracting Love and Money.  I still have a few spaces. 

 

Comments

[Tanya Sheikh]

I read this post of Suzanne's and didn't know if i should laugh or cry. This is so obvious, why, and how, could i have possibly missed this?! I have several loved ones who are currently driving me crazy and have been playing with a lot of issues surrounding that. However, I missed the obvious. How could things possibly change if i am constantly projecting out such an in credible amount of hostility? And i even KNOW how powerful my thoughts are as things that i want have started to manifest almost as soon as i wish for them. Thank-you so much for this Suzanne, I'm going to be playing for hours now, recreating the dream.