Criticism -- A Merry Go-Round - Theta Thought for Today 2-28-08

How is criticism a merry-go-round? It goes something like this. If I grew up around folks who where critical, and I wanted to "get it right" to get their love, then I probably adopted habits of self-criticism thinking that was the way to get myself to perform better, achieve more or just get the love I wanted. And, not only did I criticize myself, but I then probably did these critical comparisons -- well my body looks slimmer than hers, or not as slim as hers or I got the answer right more times than he did. If we are doing something like this, then we create an energy of criticism around us, attracting more of that energy to us from the universe. And it truly is a merry-go-round that we have difficulty stepping away from.

One place I've noticed that criticism seems to abound is looking in the mirror. If you are going to work on changing one habit in your life that will have an impact on how you treat yourself and how you feel about yourself -- it's criticizing yourself in the mirror. Yes, I know you are probably saying right at this moment, but, "If I don't tell myself what needs to be changed how will it ever change."

What you focus on you get more of. And if you are focusing on what's wrong, then you'll get more of that. Studies have shown that children in schools who get praised for certain behaviors show more of those behaviors. How many times today did you praise yourself? Have many times today, did you praise someone else?

So, this is the exercise. The next time you look in a mirror, start talking to yourself, and what you talk about is what you appreciate about what you've accomplished today or something you are proud you did, or just that you got out of bed and fed your family. If you need to think about this first, make a list. Then, face yourself with some praise. I've built in the habit of smiling at myself and saying "Hi Pretty" or "Hi Honey". When I treat myself better, I find others treat me better as well. This energy attracts more of the same, too.

You can also do this at other times as well. I have been known to leave the house, get many blocks down the street and have forgotten something crucial I need to have with me -- like my cell phone for instance. I used to criticize myself for this -- why can't you get everything together, etc. Now, I thank myself for remembering that I forgot it. And you know what, it's rare that I get more than out the driveway before I remember and lately I've been remembering in the house or just as I go out the door. Each time I remember I tell myself how proud of myself I am that I remembered. The more I praise myself for the little things the more I find that my own habits are changing. Yes, I also use Theta on them, and so the combination makes change much faster.

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Would you like Creator's perspective on criticism? Say YES if you want it.

And would you like yours to be be the same? Again, say YES, out loud.

Would you like to creator to show you how to praise yourself, and what that feels like, that you are worthy and deserving, that it's safe and how to live your life praising yourself? YES, is the magic word.

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